Name: Howard Russell (AKA..Ladie Chablis)
Location: Seattle, WA
How has your understanding of gender evolved over time, and what experiences have influenced that journey?
My understanding of gender identity has significantly evolved over time. I’ve personally increased my awareness and acceptance of diverse gender expressions—especially among the younger generation. Young people have challenged traditional ideas of what gender roles and identities should be, and that in turn has influenced my own generation. Our views on gender are shaped by biological, social, and cultural surroundings.
In your work or leadership role, how do you create space for people of all identities to feel seen and valued?
It’s important to understand that feeling seen is deeply connected to feeling valued. Creating space starts with practicing active listening, paying attention to both verbal and nonverbal communication, and fostering a safe environment where individuals feel comfortable sharing their feelings. Finally, it’s crucial to validate others’ experiences. There have been times when I didn’t fully understand someone’s identity, but I listened, remained present, and showed them that they mattered.
What do you wish more people understood about the distinction between gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientation?
I wish more people would take the time to learn about different groups—whether through personal relationships, spiritual communities, or the workplace. Gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientation can be confusing for those who haven’t taken the time to understand them. In simple terms:
- Gender identity is about who we are internally.
- Gender expression is about how we present ourselves to the world.
- Sexual orientation is about who we are attracted to.
Can you share a time when you challenged traditional societal norms—either your own or someone else’s—and what the outcome was?
When I first came out, I didn’t understand the difference between transgender, transsexual, and transvestite. It was confusing because I didn’t know how to identify myself. Over the past 30 to 40 years, I’ve learned to see the distinctions. For example, “transgender” is an umbrella term that encompasses a wide range of gender identities. Meanwhile, “transvestite” is often used to describe someone—typically a heterosexual man—who enjoys wearing clothing traditionally associated with a different gender. Understanding these terms helped me better understand both myself and others.
How do intersectional identities (like race, class, disability, etc.) shape your experience and how others perceive you?
As a Black gay man, I’ve faced challenges not only based on race but also on sexuality. I often talk within my own community about the presence of racism, transphobia, and gender discrimination—even within LGBTQ+ spaces. Sometimes, racial stereotypes intersect with gender stereotypes. For example, African American LGBTQ+ individuals are often stereotyped as being “aggressive,” which can show up as microaggressions. I believe much of this is rooted in unconscious bias—where people act on stereotypes without realizing it.
What gives you hope or momentum in the current fight for inclusion, especially regarding gender?
Although there are daily challenges, I remain hopeful. Positive change is being driven by open-minded individuals, deepening understanding, empowerment within the community, and strong support systems. Most importantly, having the right leadership in place plays a critical role in moving inclusion efforts forward.
What advice would you give to young people who are exploring or questioning their identities today?
Seek guidance and support, and allow yourself to embrace the journey of self-discovery. Young people today have access to more resources and support than I did when I was coming out. There’s a wealth of good information, advice, and peer support available—use it, and don’t rush the process.
Do you ever prioritize one part of your identity over another? If so, how?
At my age, I don’t feel the need to prioritize one part of my identity over another. I know who I am. My role now is to support and guide others who are discovering and stepping into their identities.
What support would be most valuable from allies to help promote inclusion and equality?
I have many allies, and I often tell them: instead of questioning others, open yourself up to meeting people whose lifestyles are different from your own. Learn about their habits, values, and interests. Engage in real conversations. Be a good listener. Ask respectful questions, and don’t be afraid to get personal—just do so with sensitivity and care.
How can our community come together as a whole, given how diverse we are?
First, our community must acknowledge that there is division within our own spaces. Once we can identify and name those divides, we can begin to challenge external forces more effectively. I believe many of us are aware of the issues, but the question is: how do we begin the necessary conversations?
